A few months ago I had a pretty major foot surgery. It wasn’t sexy and the longer I waited, the worse it would get. The timing was right — I was between jobs and the surgeon was available so I decided to go for it. The recovery was slow: I…

I’ve never been one to get hung up on ages. Sure, I recall a bit of trauma when I turned 20 — no longer a teenager and standing on the precipice of adulthood. Turning 30 was fine because I hit my goal of being done having kids. Forty was good…

…post-covid meetings, a drive and the soundtrack to match For the last few weeks, I’ve been watching the post-covid reunions showcased on the news and social media. …

…it’s not always about roses and brunch When I first became a mom, Mother’s Day was my favorite holiday on earth. I recall my first couple of Mother’s Days and I felt like a damn queen. It wasn’t because I was lavished with gifts or taken out to fancy brunches…

What opening up a parachute of grace means Back when I was a professor, I had the opportunity to be a speaker at a community summit. It was to be a TED-style talk, on a stage, complete with lights and a huge audience of community members. I partnered up with…

An adventure with a Santa sack of habaneros My wife likes spicy food. Not in a competitive way. It’s more like she appreciates the flavor. Before I met her, I was known to order spicy food with the request they make it “white girl spicy.” Meaning, enough spice to make…

…reflection on the last 365 days…or not. Today I “celebrate” working from home for the last year. It was a year ago today that my company decided to do a “disaster drill” where everyone would work from home. …

Postpartum reflections 20+ years later — I didn’t struggle when it came to having kids. The decision to have kids was easy. There was never going to be a “good time.” If I waited to have enough time, money or the right house, I’d probably still be waiting. Also, I was lucky to get pregnant as…

Bittersweet Symphony I think I read in one of Glennon Doyle’s books that one should write from a scab and not an open wound (or something like that). There are other writer quips and quotes that are something like, “It’s easy to write. Just sit at your typewriter and bleed.”…